anal sex….?
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A question from a reader: hi frens.i am a 21 yrs old girl having a bf.we r getting married in a few months,we hv sex many times,but wht i hate is anal sex which my bf always insists for.Now wht to do,he has been trying for it from 6 months but i am not allowing it.He says it is exciting but i think i am not ready for this as i am very scared of this as i hv heard of many things abt it.Now wht to do..pls help!
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Tell him no. Remember, sex isn’t always about one person.
just try it. its actually very fun, as long as you use alot of slippery lube, and go slow.
and for the young boys and girls who are giving me thumbs down, when you grow up a little, you might try it too, so keep your little minds open if you can.
personal choice…either you try it or forget it……its your call…..
Tell him how you feel about it. If you’re not comfortable, don’t do it. That simple. It’s your body not his. He might feel the same way if he were in your shoes. Tell him you won’t allow it.
Just Tell Him But In A Way He Wont React —>
It can actually rip the lining between your areas and you could poo where you pee, not too fun I would imagine
Always a good topic for the Weddings section.
Never put up with doing things you don’t want to do. Besides it probably hurts.
Some girls like it – I’m not one of them. It hurt like hell. If you want to try you will need a LOT of lubrication & he will HAVE to go super slow.
And be sure he wears a condom….one time a friend was telling me when he pulled out he had an undigested tomato peel on the end of his penis – EWWWWW.
Let your BF know your boundaries right away.
it will happen eventually, first time , or couple of times better lube up good, it will hurt!
just don’t do things that you don’t like and just say no!! sex is a lot, lot more enjoyable and better if both parties likes to do the same thing but not if its not.
talk it out with him.. tell him u arent comfy.. but just for the heck of it.. try once.. who knows u may like it {}
i’m not into that either…dun do it if u dun want to. make sure u tell him that clearly. dun give him vague excuses…
DON’T DO IT IF YOU DON’T WANT TO. GUYS WATCH PORN AND THINK THIS IS WHAT TO DO. EVEN PORN STARS WILL TELL YOU THEY DO IT BC IT LOOKS GOOD ON FILM. IF IT HURTS THAT IS YOUR BODY TELLING YOU TO STOP. F YOU HAVE THE RADIO SHOW LOVE LINE IN YOUR AREA LISTEN TO IT. DR DREW ANSWERS THIS ALL THE TIME. TELL YOUR DUDE NO YOU HAVE THE POWER. ALSO TAKE YOUR DUDE ON LINE AND SHOW HIM THAT THE QUICKEST GROWING PROSTHETICS IS ANAL ONES DUE TO TEARING AND RIPPING OF THE ANAL AREA
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WELL HE IS JUST GOING TO HAVE TO EXCEPT IT.most women don’t like anal sex because most women find it painful and less pleasure.
if you don’t want to do it he has to except that
there are some risk with anal like breaking the anal walls in such but that is for people that go to ruff
TRY IT ONCE AND IF YOU DON’T WANT TO DO IT AGAIN EXPLAIN TO HIM THAT .
Ask him if he minds if you stick a carrot up his butt, then see if he still wants to do anal.
take it slow especially with anal sex. the Anus is very sensitive and can easliy be damaged if you are too tense. I’d suggest asking him to maybe work up to it slowly. try fingers or toys to get used to it. And ALWAYS use lots of lube. If you go too fast you can get a tear and if it gets infected it can be very dangerous. But anal sex can be very enjoyable if you’re ready for it. Just try some soft playing to see if it interests you at all. take things slowly and tell him to be gentle.
R U sure he’s not gay wanting to bung you up the pucker all the time? Strap on a dildo and try it on him and see if he likes it.
if he is insisting on making you do something you don’t want to do, is he really who you want to marry? He is not going to stop, you will end up giving in, it could cause you major health problems, and you will end up resenting him. you have alot to think about. personally, it is not worth having permanent problems or problems that require surgery to fix. anyone giving thumbs down because thye don’t know what I’m talking about should google some information about it
Your fiancee should be understanding to the fact that you don’t want to do this. No is no.
Well, if you aren’t ready yet, he should know that and if not, tell him to respect your rectum. But when you’re ready, it’s very helpful to use a lot of lubrication because the anus is normally a muscle tightly held shut so it would really be uncomfortable during your first time, when you decide to. Another tip I have is that you should always go to the bathroom before this activity, especially if you’re on the receiving end. Second, your partner should always make sure to practice safety because it might irritate your anus if sperm gets released there. Third, know what to expect. The anus is where excrement comes from, so don’t be surprised if you get some brown stuff out or on your partner’s member during this vigorous activity.
Finally, anal sex depends on your willingness. If you are going to try it soon, take caution, and afterwards, let experience be your best teacher.
Anal sex is nothing to be scared of. What you are hearing are answers from people who are too scared to try it themselves so they make up these preposterous stories to bring the rest of the world down with them. Anal sex is awesome… The first time you try it, it will blow your mind away! And you will ask yourself why you didn’t do it sooner.
I think you should oblige him whenever you can or want to. Reason being, he might start sticking his penis in places that you or even him don’t necessarily want. Know this..marriage/relationships, takes alot of compromisation. He’s gonna have to learn that as well. Let him know that whenever you’re ready, if you ever will be, you’ll let him know.
No way. If you are uncomfortable then dont. Ask him if he would like something up there.
If you’re not comfortable with it, tell him no. If he keeps asking, keep saying no. Make sure he knows why you’re saying no, also.
DON’T DO IT!!! If you are not comfortable with it, then don’t do it. I’ve been married for 25 years and this is something that I have never done. Your boyfriend should except your feelings on this matter. Ask him why he wants anal sex so badly? I’d be curious to find out.
Hang in there and don’t give in!
Look…..sex is a personal preference – but it is also true that it takes two to tango ! if u dont like it , talk to him – tell him ur fears n wait . Dont ever ever do anything in bed u r not comfortable with. Maybe in due time u would like to get a bit adventurous!! but then….maybe you wont !! my husband has been waiting for 12 years and still counting….. lol
It’s not just about him. He shouldn’t be forcing you or pressuring you. It might be exciting for him but if it’s not something you want to do then he should be concerned and back off, not push for it even more. I wouldn’t even marry this guy. Once you’re married he could insist on this because he’s your husband and feels it’s his right. If you’re having these kind of problems now, marriage will only make it worse. He isn’t respecting you and isn’t caring about your feelings. You need to seriously consider breaking off the wedding.
its about pleasing not forcing ,when you are ready don,t let him determine when if he loves you it will not be a problem
Well you have to open & honest with your partner about your sincere feelings and your partner inturn needs to respect what you say. You’re important and deserve to be heard. A marriage is about communication–be sure you have this before you walk down that aisle. I know my fiance loves certain play that I’m not into and he knows I’m not…so he doesn’t even try…all about respect.
1st sign
of marriage trouble
NEVER to anything
you do not want to do
PS I like the answer previous
Try sticking (big side 1st)
a carrot up his!!!
Two words: Exit only….
ok well very one has there own idea of a great time, but me and my husband enjoy it, while he is doing that you take care of the other end and you will have loads of fun and enjoyment
uck, unless you are planning to have anal sex at your wedding this questions is definately not meant for this forum.
Tell your boyfriend that anal sex is a definite no no and you will not change your mind. If he insists, tell him you will place a wood stick up his bottom and see how it feels. Tell him also you are not into pain of any kind in the sexual act and if this is what he intends to do after you get married, then the wedding is off. Also explain you feel sex is a “feel good” act and should not have pain inflicted on one of the participants. You must stand up for your rights…if you don’t he’ll think you are a wimp and can get away with anything. If your B/F scares you, this is not a way to start a marriage. I would seriously think about what you are getting yourself into. Ask him if this is what he intends to do after you are married and that if it is, you cannot marry him. Give him back his ring if he insists then call off the wedding. Sex will be part of your married life and if you have to be in fear or be intimidated by him, this is not good. Tell him honestly how you feel and let the chips fall where they may…do not be afraid.
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Get the facts and make an educated decision… Some really enjoy it while others dont.
it is not as bad as you think
tell him that you think he is gay, that it is not right. If he is not gay then he will probably leave you be (for a while) but be pissed off. And then, why do you want to marry him this just seems like something that is going to come up again and again in the future, he will never be satisfied. By the time you are 30 he most certainly will want to’bring someone in, to spice things up’… and then nonsense like swinging; threesomes etc. start happening.
Get this guy to grow up first and away from the porn (which he obviously is on) it is one of the most destructive influences of our time, and a lot of young men out there are being influenced in the worst way by it.
I know, I was one, but I have grown up and try to turn my attention to grander things that life has to offer rather that that filth that God must detest.
Just try it if you dont like it stop
Here are some tips:
Use lots of lubricant
Take it slow
Act relaxed
Act like you are going to poop
Remember if you dont like it then dont do it
Let me tell you something.. IT HURTS BADLY. if you have a low pain tollerance, like me, dont try it. and if you dont want to he should understand that and not keep asking you.. :
i say just try it…i love it…(very uncomfortable at first)…but will say the anal big “O” is worth it
Hurts and is quite messy sometimes, if the guys had it done to them they wouldn’t like either
Actually anal sex is so enjoyable and fun if you ready to do it. Slowly accept the anal sex. Tell ur bf to use a lot of lube, oil base one. At the beginning ask him to insert his finger, one finger follow by 2 and 3 until u feel ready to accept his penis.
Tell him how you feel about it. If that doesn’t take care of it then tell him that if he sticks something up your butt then you get to do the same to him.
Buy a ’strap on’ and tell him you want to try GIVING him anal sex….. tell him you think THAT would be exciting….lol..he heee…
TELL him YOU insist….. lol hee heee heee….
Assuming he says no… tell him you will respect his decision, after all its his body… and then ask him to do the same!
Other wise – this is a sign of things to come (in your future marriage to this man)… if he is bullying you & disrespecting your decisions then maybe you need to reconsider if this is the right man for you. After all, as a married couple there will be a zillilion things that he will need to respect your decision on without bullying you constantly about it.
See the signs for what they are…!!
Hey, it’s YOUR body! If you have tried enough times to know that you don’t like it and are not ever going to like it, then he had better accept that fact and stop trying to talk you into it. He is being selfish and rude to you, and needs to understand that sex isn’t just about taking his pleasure. You do not have to do a dang thing just because he wants you to.
You might want to think about putting the wedding on hold until you can work out this fundamental problem of respect and consideration for each-other with him.
thats disgusting
Don’t do it…don’t do ANYTHING you don’t want to do…
Of he doesn’t understand your feelings then drop him! You can find a man who RESPECTS your body!
tell him no!!
It’s tough. Either do it for him, and try to get in the mindset of thinking it’s naughty. Don’t have to do it right away, use lots of lube and you might actually like it.
Only downside is that you hate it and he LOVES it. If you do hate it, tell him right away and he will never bring it up again. Remember to go slow!